Internet Personals Post a Reply | Views: 1370 | Started By: Sunshine | Replies: 4 I am 44 and I started dating a 48 yr old man that I met on Match in May.  We were instantly attracted to each other and have a great 4+ months together. Here's my question - he still has his ad on Match and recently reopened his Yahoo ad.  He knows it drives me nuts (am I crazy) but says he's not meeting any of them and just wants to make sure that he's not making any mistakes.   I think the mistake is to not put 100% into our relationship and drop both ads.  What's the point in having 2 ads and not responding to any messages.  I really want to believe him - that he's not answering ads or dating but I am starting to wonder only because this makes absolutely no sense to me. What do you think?  What should I do?

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First of all let us know where have you had a great 4+ months together? If chating in internet and not see each other then it's simple..  in this case he is looking for spare variant. Just because everything could happened.. and he could find better match! Responded: -_*Gogi*_-   We have been physically together - every weekend (but One) all weekend and a couple nights a week since the first weekend we met.  We've talked about selling our houses and getting one together.  He claims he isn't dating, meeting or chatting with anyone - but insists (even when he knows I hate it) to stay on the internet personals Match and Yahoo.   Responded: Sunshine   You need to be on the same page about the relationship... and you're not. He is still dating, maybe just on the internet, but he is still looking and you are not. Get clear about what you want from him and then talk to him about it. If he thinks committing to you might limit him, then let him go. You need someone who thinks the world of you, not someone who is with you until someone better shows up. Responded: Guest   I think you know in your heart this guy is not giving his all to this relationship..its easy when a guy has many wonderful qualities to over look somethings you dislike about them...however when there is an issue that he knows affects you adversly..then that is a red flag! you cant make him remove that ad...are you waiting for him to do it?..you guys really have to talk about it..you feel the relationship is past this initial stage..seems to me he is keeping the doors open just incase..even though he is talking about houses selling etc. Stand firm girl! tell him reasonably what you expect..if you dont get what you need..you need to decide if your willing to accept someone that will do things even though he knows they upset you??? I wish you luck and strength.. Responded: Guest