How should I view this? Post a Reply | Views: 333 | Started By: steve | Replies: 3 This is way to complicated. It all started she was just my friend, and she had a boyfriend of a little over a year. I always liked her, but I always knew she had boyfriend. He then broke up with her, in the summer. I wasn't sure what she thought of me(more then a friend, etc). Two days after they broke up she came over and we hung out like normal. She 'made a move' and we started kissing, holding hands, blah blah etc. It's been like this since the summer, until now, December. She still doesn't consider me her boyfriend. I know she isn't with any other guys. I've never asked her directly if she wanted to be more then friends, I just kinda assumed that is how it was, considering, she is still treating me the same way. It just doesn't make sense. Then today she went dancing with her old boyfriend. I know that this doesn't mean much, but obviously she hasn't forgotten about him. This makes so little sense. She says she adores me, and I say the same back.......then why doesn't she view me as her boyfriend? This is so weird.

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Steve, it is weird. And I'll give you my opinion. You're safe. You're easy. You give her what she needs. Security. But why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. Ever heard that term before? She wants the benefits of a boyfriend, without the commitment of a boyfriend. She probably does like you a lot. She probably likes him a lot. She probably doesn't know what she wants. Or maybe she does, and what she wants is NOT to be in a committed relationship. Sooo... I think you need to ask yourself, "Am I happy the way things are?" and if you're not, then you need to be prepared to walk away. Because the next question to her is "I'm tired of being your half-boyfriend. It's in or out, but none of this half stuff any more. You decide and what ever you decide is perfectly ok with me. But you need to decide because what I need is a relationship and and not a makin' out friendship." And THEN you have to be prepared to accept her answer whatever it is. Don't settle, Steve. Life is way too short. If you think this gal is great, I PROMISE there are a ton of women out there that would LOVE to be with you. I know that might sound a little callous against her, but it's not. Simple truth. If she don't want you, I promise someone else will. Good Luck! Brian Responded: Brian   I think you need to tell her how you fill so u can keep ur fillings from being hurt so let her know and things might change. Responded: Tiffany   Without sounding harsh...(coz i been there b4!! i feel for ya)..but.. you get what you settle for..know what you want..expect it and ask for it..do you wanna settle for a half relationship with this woman?? your worth more than that!! im not bagging out the girl either..but the others are right..your safe and youve made it easy for her..decide what you want and fight for that then even if it dont work with this girl at least you know you will get what you deserve when stand and fight for it..id prefer to be alone than to have a half hearted relationship..good luck. remember you, like everyone else deserves a  relationship that is whole..how much do you want that? Responded: Guest