I dont know if Im doing the right thing? Post a Reply | Views: 236 | Started By: ShawtyN | Replies: 4 Hey Everybody,Im sooo sad, and I have no clue what to do.I have known Eric for about 5 months now, and ever since we met we knew that we were meant for each other. So in Sep. we decided to start a relationship, but it just didnt work very well. He works a lot and never really has time to call or to just chill. I got mad and I decided I didnt want to waste anymore time with him, even though I had strong feelings for him. We didnt call each other or had any contact for about 4 weeks. Then I called him just to see how he was doing, and he told him his cousin died and some other stuff happened.I decided to go see him and we got back together...He told me he needed me through the hard times and he apologized for everything he did in the past. Well I forgave him, but now whenever I call him or go see him he is always down, doesnt really talk to me about stuff that bothers him.I dont know what to do or how to help him. Maybe it would be better for him to be single and not in a relationship what do u think? I mean how am I suppose to help him when he doesnt talk about to me. I really care about him and I dont want to lose him again, but I just dont think hes ready to be in a relationship yet....ANY ADVICE what I should tell him, or how I should try to talk to him

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Thats a hard situation. From what you are saying it sounds like he's going through a lot right now. I think he's just not ready to talk about things. Everyone has there own way of dealing with death and all those other things that life brings us, I don't think it has anything to do with the fact that he's not ready for a relationship, he's just trying to move on. My advice is just let him know that you are there for him if he needs anything. Call him every once and awhile to check up on him if you haven't heard from him at all.But most importantly...be patient. He will come around when he is ready. It may be two weeks or two months but he knows you are there for him, thats the most important part. Take care okay! Responded: faithfully   Everyone goes through some tough times when we feel depressed and sad and in those times we need the ones we love to b by our side... he might not say what is bothering him, but knowing that there is someone who cares for him will make him feel better and help him..Talk to him and ask what is bothering him, that u care for him and willing to help out if u can.... if he doesnt say anything, tell him its ok and that if he wants to talk anytime he is welcome to come to u and talk...I think that will have a good impact on him, coz he will know that u r a caring and a genuine person who is willing to stick to him in the hard times and not only in the good times.. Responded: Joda   So long as he knows you care and understand and that you're always there for him should be of great comfort . Sometimes people just need time on their own to think things through. Don't push him. He'll talk when he's ready When you love someone you should be there for them through the good times and the bad. Maybe he's happy enough just knowing you're around. A warm presence can make someone feel so good inside. Nothing ever remains the same and things will get better for him. As faithfully said "just check up on him" say once a week or so. Just pop in to make sure he's ok Responded: Romany   Thank you guys so much, thats just what i wanted to hear ! Responded: ShawtyN