help me please - desperately need help!!! Post a Reply | Views: 324 | Started By: johnpegg12 | Replies: 4 i post a message the other day about my ex and me. it has been a week today and she ask me if i wanted to go to the movies with her tonight. I don't understand what this girls problem is if she doesn't want to be with me than why would she want to go to the movies with me. I do love her and i hope that means that she want to work out the problems that we have and god knows we have a few. Please let me know what you think about this.

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She might be trying to test the waters, and see how you would act around her now that you aren't going out. Responded: broken man   Maybe she is not sure what she wants.Maybe you could talk to her what is going on, and what you both want.Maybe she enjoys spending time with you but without the commitment of a relationship. Responded: peachy123uk   I agree with peachy....sounds to me she might just like being around you. I thought relationships started as friends just hanging out, learning about each other . If I were you, Id go to the movies with her and expect nothing. Its good to get out once in awhile. WHy not do it with someone you know. Oh yeah, dont mention the problems you too are having while you watch the movie, it will spoil the ending.. Responded: JohnDear   There's no telling what people want when they do things like this. She may enjoy the attention you give her. She may just like the idea of having someone around who "likes" her (boosts the ego). Or she may genuinley want to spend time with you as a friend and nothing more. I would try to wait things out slightly to see what direction she's going to take things in, especially if she's the one who broke up with you and now wanting to spend time with you. If she doesn't make a clear move in either direction then try talking about it but if you push that you want a relationship beyond friendship it may scare her away from the friendship alltogether. Responded: CDA