was he cheating? Post a Reply | Views: 414 | Started By: sanity | Replies: 4 hi guys,this is a pretty unusual one I guess. Well as some of you may know, me and my ex broke up about 4 months ago. I still loved him but he was having doubts and things werent going well. well anyway, he has contacted me a few times during this time by email but he has not heard anything from me. He knows I'm still alive though!anyway its been 4 months on and I still think about him everyday and it still hurts like crazy. but out of all this thinking, I have come up with a revelation. I think he had been cheating on me while we were together. Now I always trusted him 100% while we were together but since we broke up, there was this niggling thought at the back of my mind that made me uneasy and now it has manifested itself.Now either my mind is twisted or he is. I know it shouldnt make a difference now, but it does. I was hoping we could settle our differences and one day be friends again but I cant if I doubt him. I need to find out. what makes it worse is that I think the girl he may have cheated on me with was his bestfriend's gilfriend and they broke up about a week before we did. I have both their emails.....do you think I should delve into this box i have unearthed or let it be? I dont mind looking like a fool if I'm wrong, infact I will be relieved, but i need to find out the turth....for my own................sanity

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Why do you think you have got this feeling that he has cheated on you?I think if you delve into their email boxes that invades their privacy. Ifyou think he will talk to you, i think you should ask your ex all about, what you might think of happened.He might deny, it might not be true.But i don't think you should do anything that is wrong. Responded: peachy   The only way you can find out for sure is by asking him about it!If u & him r not an official couple at the moment, then i see no reason why he should'nt give u a straight forward honest answer! Responded: Tony27   I agree with all the of the above, however, you are not guaranteed now that he will be honest. If he cares about you, or if he has interest in getting back together, who's to say he will admit to cheating you? He might lie about it to avoid making you mad, or creating an argument. Yes, you can try sitting him down, explaining that you would like to move on, but really need to know what was going on when you were with him. Sure, you can try asking him, and telling him that it is really important that you know the TRUTH. He might tell you the truth, and then he might deny it. I don't think there is much you can do. As far as checking his email, well, that is a clear way to find out, but it is wrong. In my opinion, it is a loss cause. All you can do is try asking him, and hope that he is honest. There is no sure way of knowing, I guess there comes a time to let go of the past, and start over.Hope this helps. Responded: SadSadSonia   Hello Sanity,I think that you should talk to him, just ask him if he was unfaithful to you during the relationship, don't let it eat at you or make you wonder anymore, I think that it is time for the two of you to talk other wise your mind may just continue to come up with assumtions, and I know how bad that can be. As you know it has been driving me crazy wondering why D has been driving by my house, so finally I asked him, it was not a great answer that he gave me but it was an answer and it has put my mind at easy. Responded: dsgirl