I am new here and need some opinions...PLEASE!!!!! Post a Reply | Views: 448 | Started By: Guest | Replies: 1 Hey guys. About 5 months ago my sister died. it was the hardest thing i had to go through. i was at a point in my life where i wasn't even thinking of looking for a relationship when i met Robert about a month later. we totally hit it off and ended up going out a week later. the first night we were together we talked. we talked all the time and just got really close. we saw eachother almost every day and when we weren't together, we were texting eachother. about 2 weeks after we met, we started sleeping together. one night i asked him if we were an actual official couple and he said no because he didn't want to get attached. he was leaving in august and he was afriad that if we were boyfriend and girlfriend that it would make it harder to seperate. he told me we were an item, and that we would not be seeing other people. we just didn't have the title. i was fine with that. we did a lot of things together and we spent a lot of time together. i have never felt so close to somone in my life. a little over a month ago, he took me to disneyland for my summer vacation. it was him, his best friend Dan, dan's fiance and her best friend and me. Robert paid for me to go, we had a double suit and he took me out everynight. it was amazing. he told me one night while we were out there that he was scared because he was falling in love with me. he knew he was going to leave and he didn't want his heartbroken. we talked about the long distance thing and decided that we would see where we were at when he left. Now, he is still going to live in New Mexico with me, he will just be about 5 hours south of me. anyways, even after spending a whole week together we saw eachother the day after we came back from our trip. one weekend he was in las crucas, where he is moving, and he called me. we were talking and i told him i had something i wanted to tell him before he left. he persuaded me to tell him over the phone, so i did. i told him that i was in love with him and that i really wanted to make this thing work. i told him that i really felt like we had something and that i was willing to go down there ever weekend to see him. he told me he would think about it and tell me his decision when he got back. a few days later when we saw eachother he told me. he said that he liked me a lot, but wasn't in love with me. he said he just felt like it would be very hard and wouldn't work. a few weeks later he told me that if he wasn't leaving we would still be together and he would be in love with me. i think he is in love with me, but he won't say it because that would make it a reality which would make it that much harder to deal with. the time has come and he is getting ready to leave. i will not see him again before he leaves. he told me that he still wants to be friends and that he wants me to visit him. do you guys think that there is a chance he could go down there, get settled, and then decide to give it a chance? do you think that maybe he will miss me and regret not wanting to try to stick it out? what are your opinions? thanks!

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I say that if he wants to see you as friends for now and go down and see him maybe he would realize what he has let go. The saying goes "you never know what you got till it's gone or to late" He might realize that he is going to a whole new enviorment and will be lonely and that you are the only person who can give him that comfort. So just stick out as well you never know what may happen. Responded: sewuniq