his parents want us to be apart Post a Reply | Views: 591 | Started By: SASSY909 | Replies: 10 ok....I have been dating this guy for 8 months. Even though we live an hour apart we still do see alot of each other. Usually ill spend a week there and then come home for a week. (he lives on his own)You see the problem is his parents....My bf was suppose to come over yesterday afternoon at about two...any ways he didn't get here until about 5 because he had to do something for work. So im like thats ok at least ill be able to spend tomorrow with you....(i was wrong) 9am this morning his mom rings up to tell him that the freezer will be there at 12 and that she expects him to be home before then. I was furious.Everytime he comes over to see me for the weekend...his parents always seem to find an excuse to make him go back home (ie. jobs around 'their' house). Now this morning they done the predictable thing and came up with the excuse of the freezer needed fixing. It had come to a point where i just want to explode. They even do it when we are over at his place. Just say if we are at home deciding to have a lazy day at home (he does work 5 1/2 days a week) his dad or his mom will ring with a problem or something my bf needs to fix. I feel like that he is not allowed to have a life. Before the weekend comes his dad has already planned my bf weekend with things he wants him to do. It had been the air conditioner, the lawns need mowing, fix his moms car, wash his dads car, build an outdoor table, help fix the stupid freezer and the list goes on.This has gone on for the whole time i have been with my bf and i am just getting so frustrated. I feel like his parents are total control freaks, i mean i would dammed if i let my parents tell me what i can and cant do.I really dont know what to do...i feel like his parents run his life....and it is really getting to me....any advise would be wonderful pls....

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Pages:     1   2    Next     How old are both of you?The first person you need to talk to is your boyfriend, because he is obviously doing every single thing his parents want him to, and he's putting you second. If he's mature, with his own job, and lives on his own....I'd start to wonder if I'd want to be with a guy who runs home every time his parents call him! Responded: maybe   I would say the same thing. You should have a serious talk with your boyfriend. Ask him why does his parents do that? And how come he always listens to them and doesn't tell them that he is busy. Maybe he has such a close relationship with his family. But he should also have time for you too. Just talk with him but don't be really pushy because that may backfire. That is my advice. Good luck.spoiled Responded: spoiled   well he is 23 and i am 19....he does have a close relationship with his mother and father....and i know that he does not want to jeapodise(spelling?) that....and the other factor is that they live in a small town and well he hasn't really had many other people apart from them.From what i can gather they have been like all their life....and his dad can be a real control freak...let alone ass hole to him as well as his mother....And the thing i he does want to spend time with me....i just think that his mother and father dont want him too. He says that they like me and all that but i seem to get a different impression sometimes. And i am not the type to try and make him choose between them and me Responded: SASSY909   Have you tried talking to your guy about this? Does he know how frustrated your getting because of his parents? I'm sure you have but if not you need to and pronto. He needs to put his foot down and make limits or some kind of a deal with them. You know like one day a week he'll do the things they need done, the rest of the time is his. I hope you guys can work out something like that. While you don't want to ruin his relationship with his parents you don't want yours to be ruined either. Good Luck. Responded: LilTickles   Whats the point of talking to the boyfriend about his family life? That is part of who he is....they are in his life and always will be. No need to be guilt tripping him out on it. You are a girlfriend. Girlfriends come and go...family is forever. If you dont like the way he is...you dont have to be with him. If he didnt like his family controlling his life, he would move, say no or something. You cannot say...I'm your girlfriend so I will take precedence. If he agreed to that..that would make you equally controlling as his parents.Some families are just more supportive, helpful and together than others. Just because you wouldnt let your parents get in the way of your needs/desires/relationships...doesnt mean that everyone is that way. So, support him and empathise if you feel you must.....or let him go to find someone that is on his side and is happy for him to be an attached/giving family member.Maybe you should just go along with him and help fix whatever needs fixing...with a smile and cups of coffee. Go with him and say...cool we'll do that and then we can go do what we want afterwards. If you dont want to be part of his life family life...then dont. If you do...then accept his family too. Responded: cleverone   Pages:     1   2    Next