what should i do? Post a Reply | Views: 459 | Started By: saniutza | Replies: 4 hiMe and my gf are dating each other for 3 years... she went for the holidays with her parents to visit her relatives back to her birth country. Well she got drunk one night and she jumped on this guy and they started kissing...i heard that she told him to go to his appartment and have sex... well she was very drunk but still... there's no excuse..second night the guy acted strange because he knew that she's dating me, and he tried to avoid her, so nothing happend... a frined of mine told me that later that night she told him that she's having regrets for what she dsid in the first night...but in the third night she got drunk again and she jumped on the guy again... and same story like the first day... she jumped on him, they kissed she wanted to go to his place... the guy got mad and i heard that he left because she kept telling him to go to his place... so he got mad and he left... i guess the guy is a gentalmen..now... i never thought she'll do something like this... i mean, i got drunk but i never jumped on any giirls... and what i don't understand is that if she got drunk in the first night and she jumped on him why she got drunk again if she knew what happend in the first night? i understand she got drunk first night and she jumped on him but she should stop drinking so nothing will happend again... but yeah she got drunk again and again in the third night...she appoligized once and she told me taht she's sorry and she was drunk... then we were chatting and she has some away message saying...:"I'm sorry for what i did, i feel like a *****... but life goes on" hmm i thought that's not an attitude for someone that's sorry... and plus only one appologize it's not enouph... i mean she cheated on me and of course i'm gonna break up with her for this... but she needs to do more than that... from the day that she told me, about 3 days ago, we haven't talked that much... i tried not to talked to her and be distant, i told her we're gonna talk when she get's back, in 2 weeks... so God know's what else she's gonna do... she broke my heart.. i cared so much and i loved her so much... but she broke my heart... and yeah... i've found this on the internet:"When one becomes drunk, they release emotions and feelings that they often usually wouldn't, however research shows that most of the emotioins released are that of which the subject felt deep down (in the subconscious) but didn't want to release for a number of reasons such as fear. "before she left things were great between us... i don't know what happend with her, why she did all this stupid stuff... i would really like to break up with her... but we've been together for 3 years aand i don't wanna kick everything that was between us... i was thinking when she gets back talk to her.. give her another change and let her come to me and see how things are gonna go from there... sounds good?or should i break up and then let her get back to me... she's very jelous and posessive, so i guess if she wants me she'll come back to me... i'm 20 and she's 20... please give some advice... i don't wanna break up with her.. i love her so much and i'm so in loved with her, i care a lot....

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Well being drunk is no excuse to cheat on you. Ive been drunk lots of times but Ive never cheated on anyone. If she did it once and acted like it was nothing whose to say she won' t get drunk and cheat again. I say she is bad news. Break up with her and let her come crying begging for you to take her back. If she comes back, let her know it will take ALOT to win your trust. If she doesn't, then she isnt worth worrying about. Responded: Ms. Kitty   well she said in the 3-rd night she wanted to tell him that first night was a mistake... but she said that when he came or when she met him she was drunk again so... she jumped on him again... i think that's just dumb excuses... i think she's gonna break up with me when she gets back... Responded: saniutza   Well if u take her back how can u know that next time she gets drunk she wont do that again..she doesnt seem to have control over her actions when she is drunk...I think its wrong to get drunk to the point where u dont know what u r doing....If she cheated on u once i think it will b hard for u to trusther again even if u want to... Its up to u to take her bck or dump her but u should first think of whether u will b able to trust her again or not? Responded: CuteeH   Ouch. I'm sorry Saniutza. There are few things in a relationship that can cause the devastion of a betrayal, such as you describe. While there are couples who have managed to mend the damage of infidelity, it would appear that your girlfriend lacks both the maturity and commitment to do so. As you mentioned in your post, your girlfriend's alcohol comsumption does in no way excuse the behavior. The fact that she offers it up as a possible defense would be an indication to me that the behavior is likely to be repeated. Unless it's possible for you to distance yourself emotionally and mutually agree to see other people, I'd suggest the least painful path would be to end the relationship with her. I'm afriad otherwise, you'll be setting yourself up for future misery with this girl. Protect your heart Saniutza. Responded: JennyJ