What do I do! Post a Reply | Views: 237 | Started By: Valinor | Replies: 3 here's the short version of my story.i've known the girl for over a month, we are pretty close friends and there when it seemed like more. So, I told her...Now here's the problem. She has a boyfriend. He lives like 8 hrs away, b/c he went off for school. They've been together for around 2 1/2 years. In any other case, I would respect the fact that they are together, but this guy is such a jerk to her. I'm not going to go into details, but he's bad for her and definately doesnt deserve to be with her. I'm not being partial either, i was careful not to be.After I told her how I felt about her, and the situation with her boyfriend, she said that she too had feelings for me - but wasn't ready to break up with the guy. She said that she had tried before and he would cry and do whatever to make her feel guilty. She also said that he knew so much about her (b/c they've been together for so long) that she doesnt want to 'start all over' and have to get to know someone that well again. Another big reason is that she has alot of her future built around him. she wants to go to school next year in the state where he lives.anyways..I dont know what to do.I feel like if i still go and see her all the time like i've been doing, i'm going to just get hurt in the long run. Maybe thats worth it? Maybe she'll change her mind about the guy by then? I dont know!!!HELP!

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Hey, You know what I think is that maybe you should move on b/c it seems that she really doesnt like you! if she did she would do all she can to be with you and not lead on her boyfreind! If you contine seeing her you will probably gt hurt...gurl sometimes dont notice how bad their boyfreinds are treating them until its to late! I know...I was in an abusive relationship...and I stayed with him for a long time until I finally nocticed what the hell was going on! She will notice sooner or later that she regrets not starting over again with you...but it might take months...or even years!! Responded: Kelly   I think you should move on, and just let her be your friend. But not a close buddy. As it will hurt. I wouldn't wait around for her though cos i don't think she will finished her b/friend until she realises that he is no good for her. Responded: peachy   Valinor, First of all, I just want to commend you for letting this girl know how you feel. That took alot of gut to do that!!! Now here comes the hard part...do you really want to wait around on someone who, even though her bf treats her like crap, is STILL planning on moving to be with him next year. Regardless of how many times you tell this girl how bad she is being treated...ONLY HER EYES CAN SEE THIS! Everything in life is a learning experience, but it sounds like she is determined to learn things the hard way. The best advice I could give you is to cherish the good times you have had with her, but find someone who isnt trying to juggle feelings between yourself and someone else. That is not fair to you!!! Find special someone who wants to devote all their feelings to you and only you! I do realize it is hard to step out of a situation when your heart has already taken a plunge into things, but it may be best that you take a break from hanging out with her for a little while. Dont let yourself get hurt! Who knows...she may decide sooner than later that this guy she is with is a jerk and you can treat her so much better. But until then, go have fun! There are plenty of single ladies out there dying for a chance to date a nice young man!Good luck! Responded: Steph