Everlasting Pain ....... Post a Reply | Views: 334 | Started By: Dolphin72 | Replies: 5 I got to know a wonderful person two years ago. I met her in Germany and we had a wonderful time of two weeks, but we were only friends even we had some feelings for each other. She went back to Singapore and I started to write letters to her. We talked on the phone and wrote endless emails. I went to Singapore 4 months later and within 4 weeks a great relationship was born. Never felt so sad as I had to leave Singapore. My decision was made...I had to move to SIngapore. I worked hard to be accepted at the University there and so I moved to there 10 months later. But she did it...she broke the relationship and told me 3 weeks before my departure that she had e new boyfriend. I never thought sadness can be so painful and deep. Only the thought that my Moonlight would be together with someone else lead to lose endless tears. No way back for me...I quitted my job and apartment already. And I thought may be I can enter her heart again. I had to go ahead and living now in Singapore. My pain was so unbearable that I could not meet her because I started to cry and begged her to come back...but how could I expect this from someone who I love so much. Sure I got to know some other friends here and someone fell in love with me. But my heart was never free. We spent a lot of time together and I found comfort in her even she knows that I love my ex- girlfriend. I felt comfortable but I did not see how much she suffered since she hid it in front of me. After 2 month I went to HongKong for businessand she joined me for shopping there but I did not tell my ex girlfriendabout it.Then my ex girlfriend broke the relationship with her boyfriend after 3 months and we spent more time together, but I still spend time with my friend because she was a special friend for me. I was so happy, but my ex girlfriend saw how much my friend suffered even they do not know each other well. But she wanted to give us a chance and that made me so happy. It was not a real relationship, but we kissed each other.Then 3 weeks ago she heard that I was in HongKong with my friend and she was angry and does not want to give us a chance based on this even the trip was 4 months ago and she had a boyfriend. She said my friend would love me more as she because my friend would follow me always. I do not understand this and explained it to her, but she said she made the decision and it is fixed. I do not know what to do. I cry a lot (also guys do this) and my life is collapsed. She means everything for me. I never felt in this way before.Can you help me? What should I do? Why it is so painful...

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The only real answer I can give you about why it is so painful is because you have such a good heart. Your hearts allows to love and care and that is why this is so painful. I haven't been a situation quite like you but I do understand what you are saying. It was very wrong of her to first break up with you and then just all of a sudden want to get back with you. Do you think that she was jealous of the other girl? Maybe not. Have you talked to her about the way you feel? The only advice I can give you is talk to her about your feelings. Let her know that you still love her and that the other girl was just a special friend to you.Are you still friends with this other girl? Do you even talk to her? How does she feel about all this? I am just wondering because in a way I think that you are putting her through a lot. I could be wrong though. Well let me know. Take care. Responded: spoiled-one   It will not be everlasting.Sure it hurts and it feels like it will never end but you will get over it in time, you are young and there will be another in your life in due time.As for this person, she sounds like a player. you ask what is a player, thats a person who likes being in charge and doesn't like losing someone to another even if they have gotten over them. I'd be willing to bet your not the first one that this person has played, but she appears to have done a good job on you. While it is up to you, I suggest you let this person play someone else and you move on with your life. If you have decided to play the game then prepare for more heartbreak unless you want to play the game with her on your rules. So your decision, Good luck Responded: Lostaggie   Hi Dolphin,It will never be everlasting, I know you will find someone just when the time is right, I had similar experience myself ~heartbreak~but, I had to move on and reach out for love, there's no need crying spilled milk. When a woman say it's over, believe it is.I know that in this world today love is scares and far away,but you will find one soon, just have some faith ok. Tides may come and go,birds may return for spring,but the written proof of love’s memories carries one on to tomorrow’s hopes,so open up your heart and let yourself fall in love again, this time be careful and give your best to see it work.Hey you can love again.Let me know how it goes ok. Responded: emailme   Hi,thanks for your reply. We talked about my feelings and I told her so many times that I love her and the other girl is a friend. She said she can not give me a gurantee and she thinks my friend would love me much more and I would be happy with her. I hate it when she try to convince me who should I love. My friend felt that something is wrong and we talked about it. It was difficult to see how sad she was but finally she said she was going to wait for me until my heart is free. I told her that is a burden for me but think she did not care. My ex girlfriend and I are still talking, but sometimes I can not control my feelings and it makes her very sad to see me crying. I am not sure but have the feeling there is another guy around her. She said to me there were not another guy. I feel very bad because the friendship to my friend caused this broken love. My friend gave me a lot of comfort as my ex girlfriend had another boyfriend and it would be so unfair to break the friendship. I am not sure if it would be the way to be able to go back to my ex girlfriend. What do you think? Should I give up the friendship? Responded: Dolphin72   Hi Wilson,thanks for your reply.I am not sure what should I feel. I gave up everything for her, I left my family and friends in Germany just to be with her. She said I should go back but she did not want it. She want being friends and asked me for staying in Singapore...but only when I will be happy here in Singapore. It hurts so much...that is the first time in my life I do not know where to go. I had never problems making decision but it seems this time I did the wrong decision. She is now overseas for three weeks and we are still in contact. We ant to talk when she is back, but I do not know if I can control my feelings. It makes her very sad seeing me crying. Sometimes I think it was just a game but then she cares so much for me (still now)...very confusing for me. Responded: Dolphin72