How do I find Out If He Likes Me Post a Reply | Views: 734 | Started By: shygir | Replies: 5 There is a guy at my work who I get along with really well. We make each other laugh and can tell each other anything knowing that it won't go any further. Now I have liked him for almost a year and we've both been single throughout the duration of the time that we have known each other. The problem is that he got burnt really bad in his last relationship which was about 2yrs ago. now I have been told that he liked me in the past but I pushed him away and didn't talk to him for about 3 months. And scince my birthday we've been talking again. And my feelings towards him have resurfaced. I can't take it any longer it's driving me mad. I need to know if he feels the same way. So that I can move on if he doesn't. What I'm asking is how do I find out he has feelings for me without asking out right and/or getting a third party involved? And knowing that he has excess baggage is it worth the hurt?

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its better to find out. if you do like him give him some signs. Us guys sometimes have a hard time getting a read on women. good luck. Responded: aNonamer   You know, hon, I'm having a similar problem with a young lady I work with. She's reallyfriendly,and we get along well....but...she's just out of a bad relationship. When I first got to talk to her, I asked if she was married or happy. She told me she wasn't going to get married again; I sniffled and said that I was just getting ready to ask her to marry me...she asked how much I made, and I said not enough! The picking has gone on and on...I'd asked her out to lunch, and she agreed...when we were on the same schedule...Friday, she asked me if I was going to eat...I asked if I was invited...she said come on...and I did. She started picking at me about getting married...while we were eating, she got some salad...I got some too....she asked if that was how we'd find out if we were compatible. I told her she'd be compatible with me no matter what. She put a cucumber on her salad...I made a comment about that...she said I'd have to get used to it...like she would the cats. What 'cha think? Is there a chance? I think you do...just from what you've wrote. Hey, just be sweet and flirty with him. He'd be crazy not to like you Responded: Mark   Shygirl, The easiest approach to find out what he feels about you without asking him directly, is to ask him to roleplay a situation that detaches you both from the present reality. For example, you could begin by asking him HOW he would describe you as a person to somebody else. You can then say... "Tell you what, lets pretend, I'm someone you know who doesn't know me... So John... What is Katy like? Tell me about her?" This way, you will get a fuller answer out of him, because it gives you control over how you want the conversation to go from there. For example, he could start describing your characteristics... "well she's really funny, easy going, good company.."But that might not give you the answers you want. You can probe as much as you want... because it's role-play. You: "ok, so that describes her personality... Tell me, what does she look like?" You could,  if you wanted to be a bit more daring, ask him in the "roleplay" mode - "so come on John, tell me, Do you just like her as a friend, or do you have stronger feelings for her?" Because you are role-playing, no matter how it goes, you can ask practically anything you want to ask. You could even ask him how he would react if he knew that "she" liked him more than just a friend. Guage his words as he describes you, and you can use this as a starting point to decide whether you think he likes you more than just a friend. Remember, there's a possibility that he won't openly admit his feelings towards you, just as he might not to somebody asking him about you. It's human nature. People need to get the answer coaxed out of them at times. "come on... you can tell me... don't be shy..." Do take on the roleplay yourself though, and enquire as if you REALLY were asking him about somebody else. Once you DO know, or if after this you are sure he likes you more than a friend, then don't waste time. Opportunities are never wasted - They're only taken by other people. Don't let someone else take an opportunity that you are too scared to. If you know for certain. Take it and make it yours. Good Luck! Responded: advice   Ok, here's what you do...ask him out on a date. It doesn't have to be a romantic setting or a BIG deal. Just invite him to hang out. If you know what his interests are and you would like to learn about them, ask him to teach or help you learn. For example, if he's into sports, ask to watch a game with him. He will love it. It's a great way to show interest in him without being overly aggressive or looking desperate. Try it and let me know how it goes at hightimeblue@yahoo.com. Bye! Responded: Guest   Shy Girl, Ok, here's what you do: You must know by now some of his interests, right? So ask him to go on a casual date---nothing fancy--just to hang out. BUT...do something that involves his interests that you may not know anything about. Like--if he is into sports,ask him to watch the next game with you. That will show that not only are you confident enough to ask him out, but that you are into him. BUT you don't appear desperate- just interested in new things. Try it and let me know how it goes! Responded: Jenny